You know those “On the Street” magazine features, where they ask a bunch of women the same question and run the various responses? Not that any poor Marie Claire intern is awaiting my response or anything, but I was randomly thinking about how I would answer the question “What do you look for in a guy?” the other day.
I think I would have answered “dad skills,” even before having Emmett. But now that he’s here, I’m even more sure that would be my response.
A smart sense of humor (especially expressed in the form of witty e-mails), an interest in reading and design, a love of the outdoors, patience and generosity all rank as important attributes to me, but I feel like just saying “dad skills” encompasses so much of those.
I don’t mean this to be a brag-on-my-husband post, but Joe has serious dad skills, and these days I am so incredibly grateful for him. From fixing our washing machine to knowing how to hitch a trailer to a bike, to making deep-dish pizza from scratch (crust AND sauce), to waking up to change diapers and snuggle our son at 3 a.m. (and that’s all just in the past week!) I feel like I’ve hit the jackpot in partners. DAD SKILLS.
I’ve never been attracted to the bad boy type, or very interested in washboard abs, flashy cars or a six-figure salary. I’m really glad that’s the case, because I get to spend my days with someone who listens and shares in my concerns and joys, however mundane, and whose hobbies and sense of adventure keep things interesting. Joe also has the ability to diffuse my overtired/hyper/superannoying moods when I’m even getting on my own nerves.
It’s important to remember that romance isn’t rose petals on the bedspread, or a thousand candles and a bottle of wine.* It’s about selflessly caring for another person. It’s about recognizing when someone is making sacrifices and spending time to make your life better or easier, and thanking him or her.
I suppose I’m being sappy, but I’ve been in a reflective mood lately and I guess that’s been on my mind.
*Not that wine and candles and whatnot aren’t totally awesome.
Speaking of romantic, did you all see this story about a man who planned a wedding inspired by his girlfriend’s Pinterest boards and proposed/get hitched all on the same day? Squee!